Seriously, i'm no saint....

Mondays! I really hate Mondays. Personally, I don’t think anything good happens on Mondays…well except this particular Monday!!!

This past Monday didn’t exactly start off so good cos I was in my 3^rd traffic jam of the day and my day hadn’t even fully started. Getting out of my area to my office is always such a drag. But lucky for me, I don’t work in the kind of office where I have to really rush to be at. I work (part time) in an events managing company. Yea, part time cos I leave for service in October so this is just to keep me bus and basically out of trouble…if you catch my drift….

Well anyway, I had an appointment to keep for my boss cos I was acting as PA/ Secretary/ mini-manager and somehow my job is to keep him in tow half of the time. I had missed my first appointment that morning and for me to se the man again I had to wait one hour in house of assembly……hmmm, d life of a hustler chick!

Anywayz, there I was in the waiting room and my tailor called me. I was supposed to give him some cash to get stuff done for me. Anywayz, I asked him to meet me there and after my meeting we drove to an ATM terminal to withdraw some cash but for some reason, the machine kept rejecting my card so I decided to go to one of the branches close by to get the cash. Got to the bank and there was this mad queue. I decided to check my account balance since I was going to be there for a while. When she handed my paper back to me, I saw that she had written 342,120k on it. Ha!, this can’t be right. I know for a fact that I didn’t have up to 40-something K in my account…talk more of 300K extra. So I asked her to check again n she did. Same thing!!!! Omo! Was this a joke? I quickly asked her if the bank had some kind of bonanza that period and she said no. it was my turn so i quickly got my cash paid the tailor and left

The things we see everyday......

The things we see everyday...... it's was raining badly that afternoon so the traffic wasn't even funny. i had been sitting there for a bit and for some reason, rythym 93.7 decided that they'd play crappy music for us. anywayz, there i was almost falling asleep on the wheels when i noticed this car beside me. first of, d lady driving was rather small. she seemed to be straining to see past her bonnet and all. that was ssactually what caught my eyes at first. next thing i noticed is that she seemed to be talking rather animatedly to a male passenger. he wasn't doing much, just sitting with his hands behind his head. he looked relaxed which really contrasted with her agitated state. nothing prepared me for what i saw next. he reached accross and slapped the lady!
i couldn't believe what i had just seen. she turned to face him and started to gesticulate more. his hands were back behind his head and anyone passing and hadn't seen what had happened earlier would have been sure the woman was quite mad to be talking to herself like that. after a moment we started moving but she was still talking. everyone was screaming for her to move her car and after a few moments she did. i could only wonder what he does to her in private if he could slap her so freely in public.
a large number of people are in abusive relationships and for some reason remain in these situations for different reasons. some believe that it is normal for a woman to be beaten occasionally if she does something wrong. a man once told me that he only hits the girlfriends that he likes. he said that if a man really loves you he gets passionate and will react passionately to things you do....imagine that!!!!!
some women remain in abusive relationships because of their children, some stay because they believe they have nowhere else to go. some stay for economic reasons while others will rather remain married to someone who beats them daily than not be married at all.... somebody please get the paramedics here right now!!!!!!
i'm all for staying and working out your marriage but it shouldn't be at the risk of loosing your life. i think some of us need to be a little open about the state of our reltionships and as friends to people in relationships, we should try as much as possible to look behind the veil and read in between the lines so we can help our friends, if they are in destructive relationships and feel too ashamed to talk abou it. lets just leave the comfort of our lovely relationships/ homes and find out how people are coping in theirs.
i know no marriage is perfect because nobody is perfect . like the walk of faith you simply strive for perfection and some days may be good and others not but on the whole a marriage/relationships should be a pleasant, fulfilling experience for all involved......most of the time

Phenomenal woman....

Beautiful women wonder where all my secrets lie
but unlike them, i've built an amour
that is the perfect size.
I try to give them more... then pause
& i say,

it's the wave in my hair

the stars in my eyes

the rose in my cheeks

the feel of my skin

the lift in my chin

the bridge of my nose

the curve of my lips,

I'm a woman Phenomenally,
Phenomenal woman, that's me.......

Still puzzled, they stare
wondering what else lies beneath it all
looking at a gem so rare
they stare somemore.... then pause

& i say,

it's the glide in my walk

the sun in my smile

the ring in my laugh

the emotions in my tears

the passion in my word

the life in my breath

the feel in my touch

I'm a woman Phenomenally,
Phenomenal woman, that's me.......

I walk into a room
and feel the eyes with every step i take
they swarm around me, like a hub of honey bees
waiting for the mistake they think i'll make.... they pause
& i say,

It's the click of my heels

the arch in my back

the palm of my hands

the love in my heart

the womb in my belly

the ride of my bosom

the strength in my shoulders

I'm a woman Phenomenally,
Phenomenal woman, that's me.......

Men themselves are puzzled
for they know not what they see in me
in vain they try to unravel my inner mystery
try as they might.... they pause
& i say,

it's the feel of my affection

the need for my care

the comfort of my love

the warmth of my kindness

the energy in my hope

the belief in my faith

the truth in my goodness

I'm a woman Phenomenally,
Phenomenal woman, that's me.......

Now you understand
why my head is never bowed,
I never have to brag, shout or talk real loud
but when i pass you by
I know i make you proud.....
Now, i say...

It's the grace of my style

the secret of my elegance

the spine in my confidence

the height of my intellect

the wisdom in my humility

the joy in my understanding

the woman in me....

I'm a woman Phenomenally,
Phenomenal woman, that's me.......

My Friend ....I Think...

Whoever said there were writings on the wall
should show me that wall....
by this time tommorrow,
I'll be no closer to the truth than i was today.
should have seen the signs
letting you into my world
slowly but surely...
Innocently brushing hands;
Taking long walks;
made u feel like a man,
sheilding me from harm.
with you i felt safe
in more ways than one....
I thought it could be love
or maybe like-like
but it was love,
deep, heartfelt love
somehow, i knew you felt it too.
so this had to be friendship. Right?
we switched love stories
in a bid to divert attention from "us".
You found love, I found love....
She's gone now
I'm Still in Love....
Now u love me again....
this has got to be a dream.
what happened to the rules?
i love you but i really like him!!!
why does life have to be so hard
My friend, the one i turn to
where are you now?
now i know what it means
to be with your Soul Mate
but your Kindred Spirit is flying free...

....The first day of the rest of my life....

This is the first time i've actually posted a blog, partly because i just hadn't gotten around to sitting down and thinking up something smart to write.....

now i have absolutely no idea what to write....

how do you guyz even get these things started?????....

even if i was to describe a little bit off some of the stuff i'm into, i'm sure i could do that in approximately two VERY short lines....

since this is actually supposed to be my diary, i'll try to be as honest as i can be, but for now.....

i'm thinking i'll wait till i actually think of something remotely interesting!!!

so i guess it'll have to be later then!