The things we see everyday...... it's was raining badly that afternoon so the traffic wasn't even funny. i had been sitting there for a bit and for some reason, rythym 93.7 decided that they'd play crappy music for us. anywayz, there i was almost falling asleep on the wheels when i noticed this car beside me. first of, d lady driving was rather small. she seemed to be straining to see past her bonnet and all. that was ssactually what caught my eyes at first. next thing i noticed is that she seemed to be talking rather animatedly to a male passenger. he wasn't doing much, just sitting with his hands behind his head. he looked relaxed which really contrasted with her agitated state. nothing prepared me for what i saw next. he reached accross and slapped the lady!
i couldn't believe what i had just seen. she turned to face him and started to gesticulate more. his hands were back behind his head and anyone passing and hadn't seen what had happened earlier would have been sure the woman was quite mad to be talking to herself like that. after a moment we started moving but she was still talking. everyone was screaming for her to move her car and after a few moments she did. i could only wonder what he does to her in private if he could slap her so freely in public.
a large number of people are in abusive relationships and for some reason remain in these situations for different reasons. some believe that it is normal for a woman to be beaten occasionally if she does something wrong. a man once told me that he only hits the girlfriends that he likes. he said that if a man really loves you he gets passionate and will react passionately to things you do....imagine that!!!!!
some women remain in abusive relationships because of their children, some stay because they believe they have nowhere else to go. some stay for economic reasons while others will rather remain married to someone who beats them daily than not be married at all.... somebody please get the paramedics here right now!!!!!!
i'm all for staying and working out your marriage but it shouldn't be at the risk of loosing your life. i think some of us need to be a little open about the state of our reltionships and as friends to people in relationships, we should try as much as possible to look behind the veil and read in between the lines so we can help our friends, if they are in destructive relationships and feel too ashamed to talk abou it. lets just leave the comfort of our lovely relationships/ homes and find out how people are coping in theirs.
i know no marriage is perfect because nobody is perfect . like the walk of faith you simply strive for perfection and some days may be good and others not but on the whole a marriage/relationships should be a pleasant, fulfilling experience for all involved......most of the time
8 comments:
Hello,
Quite some diary you got there. The issue you raised is a daily occurence but some people turn a blind eye to it.
What you said just reminded of an incident i witnessed. A guy slapped a girl right outside the hostel and it seemed that the hitting started from inside the hostel. I was told the guy daily beats up the girl and she doesn't say a word.
The society had gone crazy!
It's a good thing you're bringing it to the fore. I appreciate the stuff you're writing.
Keep up the work!
-Charles
hey, nice piece.but was wondering why u were looking at the "couple"..., i think that is a private affair...just a cruise, like u said u couldnot hear what transpired, so i feel u should not be sacrosanct in ur judgment.what u called a slap could be have been a playful touch/smack.i am not saying it is ok for the guy to raise his hand on a lady.there is no moral justification for that in my opinion. i want to state that woman beating is wrong and should be kicked against,but must confess that i know a lady who said it shows that her man really loves her, so one could say it is relative.also some ladies are really stubborn and behave like kids that should be spanked, in a bid to correct them.so i will suggest that every lady should learn to study her man's temper b4 getting involved and when involved should try to let him know what she enjoys and detest, if she has a learned and responsible man that respects and loves her, he should yieldand change to make her happy.just my reasoning and submit to superior opinion.cheers
kelvin
I'd say this is a very sincere write up...and as for men that hit women...regardless the reasons...i think that is total crap.
and as for you observing what was going on in a couples car...NOSY*wink*
still...lovely write up.:D
"he said that if a man gets really loves you he gets passionate and will react passionately to things you do...."
Now who tha hell is this moron? How tha hell does slapping/hitting someone mean your reacting passionately. Violently and passionately are definitely two completely different things.
I for one am not down for hitting a lady...period! I don't care if she likes the shit Kelvin. You just don't. Now if its smacking her in bed...you know on the ass or something while having sex...oh yeah....you do your thing. But beating her up cus she's pissing you off is ridiculous and in my opinion shows you ain't a man.
@Kelvin: Dude, you sound quite supportive but just decided to support the case so as not to get chewed up it seems.
If someone slaps a chick infront of anyone, he/she has the right to know whats going on. Cus i've beat up guys for that crap!
Good write up Gypsy and thanks for stopping by my way.
to kelvin:private affair or not, i saw it... 2nd of all,is it just me or do u sound a bit like u r in support of men hitting girls? therz no excuse, watsoever, 2 get violent. if she said something awfully terrible to u...u have a mouth aswell, try using it....
to jeff: oh yeah, 'm all 4 d playful smacking, trust me!
i was just wondering tho, u do beat up guyz who beat up chicks yea?...well, cos therez dis guy i know.....
There are some ladies i know that confess they like it when their guy knocks them around once in a while; they claim they feel more loved.
Some ladies cant even imagine being hit by their guy.
Its very hard to draw the line in the sand between abusiveness and some lady's fondness for a little rough handling.
I frankly don't hit women, and do not support men that abuse women but some guys might find themselves in the situation where your lady specifically asks u to hit her, or maybe tells u you r too soft for her. So my ovious question is what the heck do u do?
lots of people have to live with all that treatment.right under our noses. it's nothing new. where do you think wife battering came from. it's just terible if you ask me.
do you hit your girlfriend? no wait, do you even have one?
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